My One Word

Okay, idk why I always start my posts with ‘Okay’, leggo.

Humility is not / Denying / your strengths but / Accepting / your weaknesses

So, in the past week, I’ve prettied up my website here quite a bit, so you can go explore around and give me some feedback on how I can improve it. To make things even weirder, I’m writing this in HTML instead of the standard ‘Visual Aid’ UI that WordPress has. It’s a less stylistic way of doing things, but it gives me a ridiculous amount of control (at least it seems to, to this tech-idiot that has been forcing himself to IT upgrade)… so meh.

Either way, when redesigning the website, I remembered a concept that I’ve heard in every episode of Evan Carmichael’s YouTube Channel, finding your ONE WORD. If I’m gonna brand myself and my writing, then I need to know exactly what my message is, down to the one word. So today, I’m going to talk about how I found my personal one word and how you can find yours, so that you can both live a meaningful life, and have people understand you, at the same time.

Part 1: Togetherness

I was talking to Pastor Andre, from The City Singapore, about my own life issues and seeking guidance and clarity on my own chaotic mess of a life, and one thing I remembered most was him asking “Okay, if you we’re to sum up ‘Ecumenism’ in one line, what would it be?”. Now, if you all have know me for longer than 2 days, you should know that I talk about ‘Unity’ like a beaver talks about wood; I would literally have nothing better to do with my life without it.

Of course, my idea of unity starts with The Church, a topic of discussion known as ‘Ecumenism’. I started my personal faith journey through watching videos by Pastor Doug Perry on YouTube, and he talks a lot on how “The last prayer that Jesus prayed before he went to the Cross, was that we would be One, as He and the Father are One, so that the world will know that the Father sent him”. Here’s the reference:

“I do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word; that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me. And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one: I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me.” – John 17:20-23

Now, the older I get, the more I understand how true this is. We face so many challenges, as a faith community, everyday; even down to the individual decisions we make everyday. Think of how many of those challenges would instantly disappear if we just learnt to “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2). What is easy for you may be hella difficult for me, and what is easy to me could be so easy for me; which means, in all these cases, we should be tanking these things for each other. Now, in the case of Church, whether in Teaching, Prophecy, Evangelism or Pastoring, we could all use a little bit of help here and there. The sheer blindness to the day to day struggles in the Church just across the road, is what I think the major problem in this country is. More events and more outreach will not bring people to Christ, unity will.

So back to my talk with Pastor Andre, my answer to his question was “Communication!”. This is something I have to really really overemphasise when talking about ecumenism, because effective unity is not in all doing and thinking the same things, that is tyranny; unity is in watching and paying attention each other, and as a result, acting from a place of both self awareness and goodwill. I am fully fully against the idea of a ‘One World Church Government’ or even a ‘State Church’ where a central authority governs the local faith community. What I think would work best, is a Christian Institution that provides a platform for both clergy and laypeople to systematically interact with their counterparts in the other Churches around them, regardless of branch or affiliation. You might as why is communication so important then? It doesn’t guarentee that people will move in the same direction, in fact, if unity is just communication, then it expects people to disagree and make contrary decisions. Well, that is true, and that is why communication alone, is not very useful.

Part 2: Humility

The other day, I was having dinner with my brother and cousins, just the kids alone and I brought up the topic of understanding what each of us values. Now that is a bit of a hard thing to determine from scratch, but I remembered a video I saw on YouTube (I think it was of Tony Robbins or Simon Sinek, but I can’t remember) on finding your life’s purpose; and the key take away was to start with what irks you. If you want to know what you value, you must first know what you hate. One of my cousins hated when people lie and another hated when people excluded the weak; and what I realised was that, above all else, they valued truth and inclusiveness respectively. For me, the thing I hate to see most, is when people don’t see the greater value in others as compared to themselves, not recognising the strength in the poor person’s suffering and the weakness of their own riches, not recognising that everyone has attributes that make them better than you in some way. In one word, I hate ‘HUBRIS’

I quoted Galatians 6:2 earlier, and literally the next verse says:

“For if anyone thinks himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself.”
– Galatians 6:3

That is exactly why we should choose to “bear each other’s burdens”(Galatians 6:2), because we recognise that, in interacting with other people, we are not as good of people as we think we are. In one word, above all else, I value ‘Humility’.

Part 3: Achievement

Now, that is a really strange thing to value, because Humility seems like a hilariously passive core value; and I am a decidedly not passive kind of a person, so what the heck, bro? Yeap, that’s the awkward part of living a life with that aim, it’s borderline impossible to explain to every mother-father-son why ‘Humility’is not as simple as ‘Oh, I say myself bad lor’. No, the kind of life I lead is the kind where I always always always live with accepting the possibility that I am critically and fatally wrong about one thing or another, and that overlooked part of my decision making in everyday life is causing great suffering to myself and others. So ‘Humility’ to me is the “I can do better” attitude in every situation, it means aggressively correcting my perspective, until I can live a truly good life. ‘Humility’ is the result of a lifetime of disciplined adventure.

So, all in all, I decided on the motto “Achieving Humility Together” for my website, because it explains, most concisely, what my life is for. The universal message of Christianity has always been Sacrifice, regardless of branch or affiliation, and I’m not trying to replace that cornerstone of the Christian faith. It’s just that I think this aspect of ‘Sacrifice’, the humility brought about by people coming together to answer the divine call to adventure, is what we lack most in this day and age, and that my life should be about spreading that message.

So what is your One Word? I know this website is practically private, so like not more than 30 people will see this, for now, but let me know in the comments below, and maybe we can all help each other manifest our words together.

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